Meet ‘Kanika the sociopath’, the woman who believes she is the antidote to toxic masculinity with her ‘dark feminine’ advice

Social ways to win your crush, Kanika Batra said at the start of her latest TikTok video. “First things first, sneak up on his group of friends. Males like to check out their bros.”

Batra, a 26-year-old Australian author, model and content creator currently based in Barcelona, ​​has grown her TikTok account to nearly half a million followers in just one month.

But then she said she was hacked and deleted. “The person admitted that too,” she said in a video this week. Defending women is clearly a crime. She has since started a new account where she has 3,000 followers and counting.

Patra represented Australia in the 2021 Miss Aura pageant and regularly posts TikTok videos with a “diagnosed sociopathic” text overlay. She talks about her behaviors and motivations as someone with antisocial personality disorder, and how women can use some of their traits to their advantage in a patriarchal world.

People with antisocial personality disorder are categorized in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-5) as having “disregard for and violating the rights of others,” lacking remorse or empathy, and being exploitative and manipulative in nature.

In one video, Batra says her dating advice is to stay emotionally detached by seeing multiple people at the same time because “if you have a lot of choice, you have all the power.”

“Don’t take a coffee outing as a date,” she says. “The more money he spends on you, the less he spends on other women.”

She told Batra that her type of advice is known for harnessing “dark feminine” energy, which includes being dominant and assertive, while leaning towards femininity.

“Women love it, they absolutely love it,” said Petra. “You wouldn’t understand how many messages I have right now that say, ‘Can you take revenge on my ex for me?'” “,” Can you teach me how to do this? “,” Can you teach me how to separate from people? “

@ogkanikabatra Sociopathic justice ideas. Reposting some of my content from my last page! #aspd #personalitydisorder #fyp #foryou #revenge #viral #clusterb #forwomen ♬ original sound – Kanika Batra

After witnessing the surge of toxic masculinity on the internet, Batra decided she wanted to be the antidote. She pointed to figures like Andrew Tate, a podcaster and entrepreneur who grew a massive following of young men with misogynistic ideas about the role of women in society before his position was revoked (Elon Musk recently welcomed him on Twitter), and the “Fresh & Fit” podcast. Hosted by Walter Weekes and Myron Gaines, which has a similar effect.

“They basically say to abuse women, go to young women so that you can brainwash them, and this is being generalized about teenage boys who are going to make these girls’ lives hell,” Batra said. “Because I don’t have these feelings of concern or empathy for these guys, I don’t really see them as people and it’s really easy to pursue them.”

“So far, more men have been diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder than women,” said Dr. Ramani Durvasula.

A clinical psychologist who specializes in the “dark quadrant” of personality traits — narcissism, psychopathy, Machiavellianism, and sadism — Durvasola said more diagnoses in men could be due to many factors, including hormonal differences, and the possibility that they might manifest themselves very differently in women in ways. Researchers don’t fully understand it yet.

Batra’s diagnosis of antisocial personality disorder answered a lot of questions

Batra was born in New Zealand and moved to Sydney when she was five years old. She said she always knew she was different, and had poor impulse control from a young age. On her TikTok, she told stories of pushing a fellow kid down the stairs, or getting her classmates into trouble.

When Batra was diagnosed with antisocial personality disorder, she says, everything she’d been through up to that point started to make sense.

One of the main diagnostic quotas that people with antisocial personality disorder must meet, Durvasula said, is to include behavioral issues before the age of 16. and live moment to moment with little regard for what the future holds.

Most of the time now, Batra said, she suppresses any impulses that harm others, “because I’m an adult and I don’t want to go to jail.” She’s also only 5’1″.

Meet 'Kanika the sociopath', the woman who believes she is the antidote to toxic masculinity with her 'dark feminine' advice
Batra always knew she was different. 
Kanika Batra/Instagram

At the age of 21, Petra said, she was suffering from severe depression that became so debilitating that she attempted suicide. She said she sought the help of a psychiatrist with the intention of prescribing her Valium.

But Batra said the psychiatrist, who worked in prisons, saw “a lot of manipulation and lies” Batra was telling him and, after several conversations, diagnosed her with antisocial personality disorder. TW has seen documents from Petra’s psychiatrist as confirmation of her diagnosis.

Batra said she always struggled with a disconnect between herself and others.

She understands how people feel, but she doesn’t have the ability to handle their feelings in the same way that empathetic people do. She also said she doesn’t feel guilt or remorse, or worry about her decisions.

Once I do something, she said, I do something; I don’t think about it. “I think people are somewhat envious of it because I can go into any situation and not think about the future and not think about the possible responses to my actions.”

Job interviews, for example, are “a piece of cake,” Batra said. “I love them.”

There are a lot of misconceptions about what antisocial personality disorder actually is

The way Patra talks to the camera in her TikTok videos is very sophisticated and straightforward. She said it was her with her mask – not deferring to social norms or thinking about how to understand them.

Meet 'Kanika the sociopath', the woman who believes she is the antidote to toxic masculinity with her 'dark feminine' advice
Batra had nearly half a million TikTok followers before her account was deleted. 
Kanika Batra/TikTok

But more often than not, with her partner and friends, and in our interviews, Patra seems elegant and outgoing. She said she was always “very self-assured and very bubbly,” and this can confuse some people when they learn of her diagnosis.

“Anti-social doesn’t mean I’m anti-social,” she said. “It means that I ignore social norms, not that I am a mean person.”

She was also in a relationship with her husband, Sam Mathison, for three and a half years. He’s more private than she is, and has a minimal social media presence. Patra knew Matheson was special, she said, because when she took off her mask in front of him—hard to believe—he didn’t run.

“He’s seen the worst and won’t leave,” she said. “It doesn’t make me feel judged for anything.”

Batra said she suffers from compulsive spending and is technically bankrupt in Australia because she took “several first-class flights” on a credit card, racking up thousands of dollars in debt.

Another lesser-known symptom of antisocial personality disorder is depressive episodes, Batra said, which can be “really overwhelming.” People often assume that being a “sociopath” means being untouchable, but that is not the case.

She can get hurt, Batra said, because her emotions tend to be more shallow than those of others.

“Like, I’m not Patrick Bateman,” she said, referring to the “American Psycho” protagonist.

Durvasola said it may be that depressive episodes are what prompt people with antisocial personality disorder to seek treatment and learn about their diagnosis.

“It’s like depression comes in the face of an ego injury rather than what we traditionally think of as depression,” said Durvasola. “But at the end of the day, the traits that deal with the future look like depression, and a person with antisocial personality disorder can develop depression concurrently.”

Patra loves the verification TikTok is giving her

Batra said she loves the confidence her videos promote, as her goal was to empower women as well as educate. She is particularly pleased when women tell her that they have taken advantage of her advice to get ahead in business, or to teach someone who has mistreated them a lesson.

“I love hearing that my videos have helped organize women emotionally, because women feel this unnecessary need to feel guilt and empathize with people who have nothing to do,” she said.

“Men also punish us for focusing on ourselves. They call us narcissists, they call us whores, they call us fame-whores, attention-whores, gold-diggers, influence-chasers, the list goes on.”

@ogkanikabatra Why you shouldn’t blame yourself for getting manipulated by a sociopath #aspd #sociopath #viral #fyp #foryou #clusterb #forwomen #manipulation ♬ original sound – Kanika Batra

Batra also gives women insight into potentially abusive relationships with men who suffer from antisocial personality disorder, or other dark personality traits. People who have been in these relationships are “really, really struggling,” said Durvasula, who works with survivors, and may find it comforting to see Patra’s perspective.

“It may remove some of the self-blame,” Durvasula said. “It’s not about you anymore – it’s, the way they are, the way they always will be.

“I think she is in a position to offer something that I could never give.”

Batra said the large number of comments on her videos makes her feel more understood, in a world where she often feels lonely.

“I really appreciate knowing that other people are going through the same things I am,” she said. “And they’ve found it helpful to use my content to improve the way they process and interact with the world.”


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